Life is so simple.
We just complicate it by simply complicating things. Take LOVE for example. Such a touchy subject, so many books on it, so many web sites, life coaches, relationship coaches, and it goes on and on and on. I think it’s quite simple. It all boils down to this.
Women have what men want
Men have what women want
The only thing truly worth dying for is love. I don’t know about you but I’ve never had sleepless nights, waves of depression, or sat around longing to go to war. Your relationships will never amount to much in life if you hold back. I am not perfect by any means but I do the best I can at the time with all I have to not hold back in any endeavors. Especially this one.
If we are truthful about it at our core we all want a sharing, caring, loving relationship that stands the test of time. Its what everyone wants.
We all have a deep need to be known by another person.
They will say otherwise, but I’ve seen it time and time again. Its that simple. Get to it. The only thing that happens when you wait is you get older.
I was working on that song “Heart of the Matter” by Don Henley today. That’s one of those tunes that’s so damn good you wish you wrote it. The lyrics are amazing, authentic, vulnerable, and real. It took a lot of balls to write that song. That’s what I’m talking about. I understand healing must happen. I do, but get it done and get on with your life. Life is too short to be spent in the company of morons.
I hear all the time every story after story about why people are not successful in relationships. For example, I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now. What this means is I am not ready to be in a relationship with you right now. Honesty is pretty much gone these days. There’s a couple of things to remember that will help you be honest.
1. They only know what you tell them
2. You do not issue ultimatums to anyone
3. Forgive them- By the way forgiveness does not mean acceptance of what they did.
Think about that. That’s heavy man. I know somebody did something blah blah blah this and blah blah blah that, but get over it. Let it go. Forgiveness is a gift to yourself.
You have to love yourself to be in a successful relationship.
Just remember sometimes…
The best defense is no defense at all.